Reaching Across the Divide

Healthy
Communication
Healthy Children

If you’re a couple with children, the decision to end your marriage is not the end.

It’s only the beginning of a long, delicate journey for both you and your family.

It’s a process that needs to be handled with care, sensitivity, and compassion.

That's why Arches was created.

Before and after the divorce process, the Arches team is there to ease tensions and guide you through the complexities of co-parenting and shared responsibilities.

 

We’re here to help you reach a safe, healthy space where you can communicate effectively—because a relationship with both parents is the most important gift you can give your children.

Here’s How We Support You

Pre-Divorce
Education

We equip you to navigate the divorce process smoothly and effectively by providing information about your options and resources.

Parental
Coordination

We help you communicate effectively with your ex-spouse, empowering you to interact independently in the future.

Case
Management

Case managers offer wraparound support in setting up a new life. We help you find jobs, housing, therapists, and anything else you might need to rebuild.

The Arches Process
Here’s How It Works:

If you are pre-divorce:

Each member of the couple speaks with our trained intake coordinator to share basic information.

The guide will educate you about the divorce process and answer questions like:
  • What will divorce do to our children?
  • Where can we find a mediator?
  • What does the beis din process look like?
  • What will divorce cost us?

If you are post-divorce:

Each member of the couple speaks with our trained intake coordinator to share basic information.

Decide on a subsidized treatment package and payment plan.

Each of you meets with your case manager and/or parental coordinator to get to know each other.

For the first three months, the parental coordinator and case manager touch base with each of you several times a week to find out what you need. After that, they check in weekly. They are there to help, and we encourage you to reach out as needed.

The parental coordinator and case manager gradually help you transition to independent communication.

An Open Letter to
the Community

Through her work placing children in foster and respite homes, Rechy Zolty witnessed the damage a contentious divorce can wreak on a family. 65 percent of children involved in high-conflict custody cases become clinically anxious and demonstrate behaviors such as aggression, depression, and sleep disorders. 56 percent of these children develop attachment disorders that make it difficult for them to form healthy relationships.

Rechy Zolty created Arches to solve this problem before it happens.

Together with the Arches team, Rechy envisions a world where pre- and post-divorce care are a critical part of the process, paving the way for respectful communication between co-parents. Every child should be able to trust that both their parents truly love them, and prioritize their well-being over everything else. Arches makes that a reality by providing parents with objective guidance and support, allowing them to give their children the security and stability they need.

If you’re a donor who cares deeply about keeping broken marriages from becoming broken families, Arches would be proud and grateful for your support.

Future-Focused

These are the values that we operate by, allowing us to help you create a hopeful future for your family.

Objectivity

We recognize that there are two perspectives on every issue and we never take sides. Instead, we help both of you focus on your ultimate goal: your children’s well-being.

Sensitivity

We know a divorce leaves emotions raw. You are going through a lot, and we promise to always treat you with compassion, respect, and understanding.

Adaptability

What works for one family may not work for another. We will collaborate with you to determine the best solutions for your unique situation.

Efficacy

Our objective is for you to be able to communicate independently. Our process focuses on setting up the systems and foundations you need to get there.

Behind Arches

Rabbinical Advisory Board

Rabbi
Uri Deutsch
Rabbi
Ari Marburger
Rabbi
Chaim Meir Roth

Advisory Board

Chaim and
Shani Gross
Nina Kawenblum

LCSW

Miriam Treuhauft

Lawyer

Moishy
Tress
Rechy Zolty

Executive Director

Rabbi Yitzchak Herzaft

Rabbinical Director

Leah Nadler

Clinical Director

Miriam Treuhauft

Intake Coordinator

Aliza Greenwood

Parental Coordinator

Esti Weinberger

Parental Coordinator

Healthy communication between parents leads to healthier, happier children.

Divorce is complex. But with the proper support, we believe that every member of your family can emerge healthy and strong.

Your children are counting on you.